Task #36 for the Single Ladies
I was speaking with my husband the other day and he mentioned something really interesting…
Do you know when young Christians should begin to date?
When the two of them are in a position to marry.
Think with me. Let’s create a scenario…
Why would a 15-year-old girl who is serious with God start to date a boy (who is of the same age and faith – or he could even be older than her), if neither of them is in a position to get married?
Or lets say that the boy is 20 years old, lives with his parents and is studying…
His studies will finish in 3, 4 or 5 years! And only after this can he begin to work and prepare for marriage.
So I ask you…
Why would you be dating for all that time?
Long-term dating only builds up anxiety and a danger of falling into sin. Christian dating is not the same as non-Christian dating, which, many times is long-term and the arrangement is no different than that of marriage.
The young person whose heart really is in the things of God, knows what she must do in order to preserve herself and that long-term relationships are very dangerous.
Let’s now create another scenario…
You are still young, but in the age range of 25 to 30 years old and are ready to marry.
Do you think it’s wise to get involved with a boy who still isn’t ready even if it means dating him for the next 5 years?
Here’s something more for you to think about…
Christian dating is so two of you can get to know each other better – to know a little more about the character and future plans that you each have.
You only start dating someone who you believe is the right person and know that is ready to get married – assuming that you are already ready to marry, right!
Look girls, wasting precious time on a long-term date that you clearly know is going nowhere will only be disappointing.
“Be wise girls, dating is one step away from marriage… Ask yourself the following:
‘On starting this relationship, am I one step or one thousand steps away from marriage?’
If you are not one step away from marriage, then it’s better to wait…”
Many of you are now thinking…
‘But he’s been sent by God for me, and if I don’t accept him now, then I’m gonna lose him altogether!’
Here’s your answer:
If you lose him, then it’s because he’s not the one that God had for you in the first place!”
Ps. I would really like to hear your opinions on this topic.