When I thought about marriage, before getting married of course, I thought that I’d marry someone that would make me happy...
Who doesn’t think like that, right?
There’s only one little problem with thinking like that… a marriage involves two people, not just you!
That’s the reason we end up having so many problems. We simply forget that not everything revolves around us.
In fact, in the same way you expect your spouse to make you happy, you should also strive to make him happy.
If we don’t understand this principle then we’ll only want to receive and never give.
When was the last time that you thought about this? Have you ever sacrificed your will in order to please him?
My husband hates going to shopping centers and clothing stores but I love it!
Once in a while he takes me to the mall. When he does this I know that he’s going against his will just to please me. I value his effort so much that I insist on demonstrating my gratitude and showing him how much he has made me happy…
Now moving on to me, I must admit that I’ve always detested soccer. Come on, can anything be more annoying?! Just the sound of the commentator’s voice is enough to irritate me!
And you know what? My husband is absolutely crazy about soccer!
Do you know what I had to do? Sacrifice.
I started to watch games with him. I also began to learn about the different teams and even started reading the sports section of the newspaper just so that I could comment.
One day he said… “Darling, don’t worry you don’t need to make any comments- you’ve got it all wrong anyway. But don’t worry, I got the message…” Alright, I think I memorized the wrong names and I mixed up some players. I even think that some of the ones I mentioned had already been sold to other teams, which was quite amusing to him! lol
I’m not going to lie and tell you that I now love soccer, but I’ve learned to sacrifice my will for him and he does the same for me.
You don’t only think about receiving, on the contrary.
Dare-Task # 23
“Starting today you are going to remember that you’re not the only one in your relationship and you’ll make an effort to give and sacrifice your will.
Search for situations like the ones I described above so that your sacrifice is clear to him. As a result, he will feel appreciated and what’s best, it won’t be too long before he starts doing the same for you.”