Hello Mrs Nada, how are you?

I wanted you to clear up a question for me. I have a friend who is observing a young man but I know things about him that don't correspond to the attitude of a man of God. If I let her know, will I be gossiping? 

I don't want her to suffer, I really want to help her but I don't know if that's the right thing to do, please help me!

Kisses and may God continue to bless you and your husband.

Dear friend, 

If the things you know about him are true facts, in other words no "hearsay" but things that you saw, then it wouldn't be gossip if you let her know. 

In fact, when I was single I had a friend that told that my boyfriend was cheating on me and she had seen everything. She had known for quite a while but took her time in telling me, I felt very upset at her... I would have liked for her to tell me before. I hated playing the fool. 

Of course, not everyone will react the same way. Perhaps your friend will not like it, but you will be doing your part in helping her. You also need to respect her decision because it is possible that even after you telling her these things, she may still decide to stay with him...

You Defended her Mom...

Nanda, I agree with all of the advice that you gave that young girl. But you are definitely defending the mom.

 

You are doing what most people do in thinking that it's always the daughter's or son's fault and that's not true.

 

That young lady most certainly must follow your advice, not because she's wrong, but because with those "weapons" she is going to change her mother.

 

Of course that young lady must have defects, but we all do. Her mother should know that and value her, even more so if she is an assistant.

 

I say to you young lady, don't wait for people to value you, even your own mother and even if everyone blames you. Jesus know's your worth and He understands you and that's enough. 

My dear,

That was my opinion and in reality it was the young lady that was asking for advice and not her mother. This being so, it is she who has the power to change- do you know what I mean? My advice has to be for her and not for her mother. 

And sincerely, I believe that a mother deserves respect and I perceived a lack of respect in the way she wrote. 

I'm not saying that moms are always right, but it is necessary to understand that mothers are humans and can also make mistakes- even is she is an assistant. Assistants are also humans. 

If she puts into practice that advice that was given, I'm sure that the situation will change. Feeling sorry for her and telling her how wrong her mother is won't change the situation, right?

I was also a daughter that had many problems with my mom, if I had only had a Christian foundation and advice like this, everything would have been different... I have no doubt about that...

She makes Herself as the Victim...

Hi Mrs. Nanda, 

I would like your help because my situation is that my mother is an assistant and I'm not, however, I make an effort to do things right but all she can do is criticize me. 

When I say something, she begins to paint herself as the victim and makes me feel like the worst daughter in the world. If she orders me to do 10 things and I only do 9 (due to lack of time), she always says that I didn't do anything. Because of that I get really upset, for the devil uses it against me a lot to make me feel bad and think that I'm not a good daughter. 

Gosh, she only sees the bad things. It seems as though I don't have any qualities. Not to mention that she always makes it very clear that she doesn't believe in me. Please help me, this has

hindered me a lot and what's worse is that my sister is also an assistant and the same thing happens with her but she is able to deal with the situation better than me. Please counsel me. 

My dear, 

A good question.... Who is wrong in this situation?

Answer:

I'm only hearing your side of the story and your mother certainly has her 
side too. 

There's no doubt that she has her reasons but the truth is that you are not very 
worried in understanding her reasons, is that right?

According to your point of view, she is wrong. According to her 

point of view, you are wrong. 

One thing is for sure my friend, your mom doesn't want what is worse 
for you. 


If she has been complaining, she must have her motives...right or wrong, 
she has them...

And there's more, perhaps in your opinion you are giving your "best" 
in you chores, but for your mom that isn't good enough... How about 
striving to be even better??

What if out of the 10 things she asked you, the one thing you didn't do 
was indeed the one she wanted you to do?

You say that she makes herself the victim... Forgive me if you are 
going to be saddened by what I'm about to say right now but I 
think that this is a bit disrespectful and in reality you paint yourself 
as a victim throughout the whole email... It isn't very pleasant to hear that, 
right?

I can just imagine your attitude, words and even your body language in 
front of your mother... you need to respect her friend. 

You are not a bad daughter, those thoughts are being placed by the devil 
and not your mother. 

You just need to reevaluate your actions and change, that way 
your mother will also change. You can also be sure of that!

Tips:

* Help out more with household chores;

* Do things without needing your mother to ask;

* When you've finished doing something, ask if it's alright and 
if it isn't (without making a sour face) do it again until she approves. 

* Talk to your mother and tell her how you have been feeling;

* Even if you are tired, help her where she needs a hand. You are 
not going to die, you can be sure of that;

* Try to understand your mother, think about the 
responsibilities and problems that she faces 
and be understanding;

* Invite your mother to pray with you every evening or morning;

After you put these tips into practice, everything is going to change 
for the better!

Send us an update, ok?!

Things that they do...

I am working on something and I would like to hear your opinion...

What things do men do that absolutely annoy you? 

Another friend…

Ummmmm, you will like her so much. Her parents leave in Greece and are very different…She has something about her that is very interesting too…She loves eating even though she is so slim :)

I don’t want to be a sham…

Hi Mrs Nanda,

I am 18 years old and begun seeking the Holy of God not so long ago. And just as another young girl said on a previous post, during yesterday’s meeting I realized that what was missing in me was sincerity towards Him.

I opened my heart, however, when I leave the church to go home, as soon as I get there, I get myself stressed with my brothers to the extreme. And on the following week, Tuesday I end up manifesting in the church.

What can I do to stop manifesting and be completely free?

I do not want to be a sham.

I do not want to pretend that I am something I am not…Born of God!!

My beautiful,

That is an extremely important step but it is not enough. If you still manifest, this may be because you are still leaving an open door to the devil.

Cut off from your life all that is wrong. Lies, deceit, grudges, envies and everything else you find.

Look deep inside! Do a spring-cleaning!

Friend, do whatever it takes to remove all the rottenness that the devil has brought inside you.

Get revolted against that! Until when will you accept this situation?!!

Even today, right now! While reading these words, all evil is being destroyed and taken out of your life in the name of the Lord Jesus.

I determine that! Be free!

Do you believe in this? If so, let it be done!

If you do what I told you, to remove all the dirt, this evil will not come back as from today. You are free!

And let it be so to all those who read this message and believe!

How wonderful!!! I am jumping of happiness for you!!!

Friend, go in this faith and be a blessing!

Now you can surrender yourself in these 21 day fasting and be sealed!!!

It is over for the devil!!!!!

P.S. If you have a question that you would like me to answer here in the form of a "post",which will not only help you but many other people, write to me in the comment box below this post and I will be answering within my possibilities. Please avoid adding very personal details. 

Boyish…

You know the boyish kind? You will fall in love with her mischievous way!!!

She Hated my Long Hair...

If you are young and think that it's too early for you to take God seriously, just look at what Eunice, a pastor's wife here in England, has to share with you...

I grew up very lonely and in spite of apparently having a beautiful family, within four walls only I knew how rejected and alone I felt. 

My parents always tried to give me their best but due to the many problems that they 

faced I was always stuck in second place. 

My mother's practically lived in the hospital with my sister and even when she wasn't in the hospital she was either working or studying.

 

And so I grew up very rebellious. I never liked rules. I did what I wanted to do, for there was no one to watch over me. 

I remember that I used to go to school alone and I was very scared of an older girl who hated me just because I had long hair hehehe.

 

One day she locked me in the restroom and said that there was a woman dressed in white in there. You know those legends told in school just to scare us? She was a meanie, wasn't she? lol

I was a child and I believed everything. I cried a lot and I didn't want to go to school anymore... Everyday became a nightmare. 

In order to defend myself I began hanging out with people that brought me some assurance, you can just imagine who those people were, right?

I began to fight in school and make people fear me. I used to say cuss words, slang and I only didn't do worse things because I began to seek God at fourteen years of age.

 

From that moment on my life changed completely. I didn't even have to distance myself from my "friends" because they distanced themselves from me. They wanted to talk about things that no longer interested me, and so they began distancing themselves...

I began to make new friends that added to my life. Now they were friends like sisters because we had the same Father. 

The Lord Jesus loved me, gave me love and brought discipline to my life.

 

In this way God made me a new person and with an immense desire to help those that live lost like I once did. 

Another day I will tell you how I met my husband and how one day while we were datingI broke up with him out of revolt ...

  

Till next time!

By Eunice Silve (Pastor's wife in London)

Things men do that annoy women...

Hi everyone!


I just came home from an amazing Therapy of Love meeting.


The "theme" today was: Things women do that annoy men.


Well, well... That was very interesting.


You know what was the best part of it?


They were talking about things we do that annoy them, but at the same time they did it in a very respectful way and nobody felt offended (at least not me and the people I spoke to after the meeting...).


They were so caring not to offend and only to help us, and even though I already respect all those men so much, now it's even more!!!


Next week is our turn, we will speak of things they do that annoy us and I would like to hear from you too.


Please add here your comment with things they do that annoy you and I'll choose the best ones for us to talk next Saturday.


If you missed today, don't miss it next week!!!


Therapy of Love at the Rainbow Theatre. Saturday 7pm, 232 Seven Sisters Road, London N4.


See you all there!!

Mischievous!

Just take a look at her mischievous expression. She is a cutie!

The Prince Who Turned into a Frog

I’ve been reflecting a lot about marriage these days. 

I must say, it has been very interesting taking a look at where my marriage began. So much has happened since then, I cannot even recognise the woman I was back then. When I got married at 20 years, I was immature, to say the least, and so as expected, I made many mistakes.

See, I grew up reading romance novels. From the time I was eleven years old, I would grab my mother’s romance novels and would lose myself in their pages. From one hero to another, I learned one thing – somewhere out there, there was a man who would do everything I wanted him to do, say everything I wanted him to say, in the way I wanted him to, he would give me everything I wanted to receive, be everything I wanted him to be. And, in that rare moment that he did anything contrary to my will, he would quickly come running to apologize. Oh, how I couldn’t wait to meet this Prince Charming!

You can imagine how excited I was to get married. 

I was finally going to live my fairytale. I was ready to be swept off my feet and be charmed by my prince. But, the prince I married turned out to be a frog! (So it seemed to the girl who believed in fairytales).  He never did anything I expected him to, always said the wrong thing, didn’t explain his point of view as patiently and gently as those Mills & Boons heroes did, he never allowed me to have the last word, never talked for hours on end, like a best friend. It’s funny now, but back then, it was painful to realize that the perfect man I’d hoped for didn’t exist. What now?

It was time to wake up! And maybe, it’s time for you to wake up too. True love isn’t a mere feeling. It isn’t selfish expectations. It isn’t those butterflies you feel in your stomach. No! True love is far better, far stronger, far superior than the idea of love painted by Hollywood and romance novels. True love is sacrifice, action, it is a decision – the sooner you learn how to separate love from your feelings, the sooner you can 
experience true love. 


By Moti Bernardino