Friday, 23 April 2010

For the Single Ladies- Sexy girl

Task #29 for the SBoldingle Ladies

Before I knew the Lord Jesus, I lived with no direction whatsoever – in all aspects of my life.

This wasn’t only on the spiritual side, but also in the physical. What am I trying to say here?

I thought that I needed to attract attention in order to be noticed – I’m speaking here about the way I dressed.

Remembering those times is really embarrassing, but in order to help, I’m going to share the “old Fernanda” with you.

I was very insecure and concerned about attracting male attention; I thought that that was the only way I would be noticed.

I even found a way to look “sexy” with my school uniform and attract the glances of men… during PE wearing trousers so tight that they seemed like part of my skin.

I remember one day, I was in the third year of secondary school, going home with a friend, when she mentioned something…

“Fernanda, you do know that you get the attention of all the guys when you pass by, don’t you?”

“Who, me?” I ignorantly said, but deep down I was loving the comment.

“Do you know what that means?” she asked. “It means that you’re driven by a promiscuous spirit.”

“Look, I don’t know what that means, but I’m sure it’s something very good!” I answered smiling.

This was the first time that I heard about this promiscuous spirit, and the worst thing is, that I saw nothing wrong with it!

For me, there were no limits:

The shorter the skirt, the better.

The lower cut the blouse, the better.

The more transparent the dress, the better.

The tighter the trousers, the better. Not to mention, that hopefully it was really low cut, so that the navel shows…

The more attention I called, the more I thought I would be appreciated and happier in love; but do you know what happened?

I was always unhappy in love and felt very used.

That’s how I arrived at the church and when I was set free from this

Promiscuity, I understood the importance of being careful when choosing the right clothes.

I began to view the way I dressed as vulgar and knew that it attracted attention to my body, but that doesn’t mean to say that I was appreciated.

It’s important to understand that depending on the way we dress, we will attract a certain type of attention.

A man who fears God will not choose a woman based on her ‘sexy appearance’.

Task #29

“If you realize that you dress without limits and do have the intention to attract attention to your body, don’t hesitate in seeking help through Chains of Prayer to be free from this.

Also, do a clean out of your wardrobe and be free from those clothes which are so open and revealing.

For those of you who are free but just need to be careful with how you dress, here you go…

Here are some tips, things that, in my opinion, are not good to wear:

1. ‘Dental floss’ knickers

2. Jeans or other trousers that are really tight.

3. Tops where the neckline shows part of your breast or the famous “builder’s bum”, (or that space between the breast area, look at the picture above).

4. Mini skirts.

5. See-through blouses that show your bra, or see-through skirts

6. Tops that display a bare back.

7. Tight dresses that mark and show your silhouette.

8. Clingy skirts that hug your body and show the shape of your bottom.

9. Low cut jeans that show the crease of your bottom or your underwear.

10. Belly tops that show your beautiful navel.

Being well dressed is not about showing your body; the secret is to know how to dress in a beautiful way, without exaggerating and with a lot of care.

I’m not here to create doctrines; I only want to help those who want to be helped. If for some reason you don’t agree with my opinion, you are free to be however you want and wear whatever you want.”


  1. Well said Nanda.

    If there is a promiscuous spirit it's certainly rampant in the world today.

    Women have been systematically undressing themselves for the past 30 years. Sometimes I wonder how "undressed" we will be in 10 years' time.

    God help us because no one else will be able to.

    All the best to you.

  2. Hi Mrs Nanda
    While reading this article, it reminded me so much of how I was before coming to the church. I too had that urge of being called sexy and so I would wear low-cut tops (showing parts of my breasts), very tight jeans and worst of all. I would even reveal parts of my under wear( the ones which had crystals emroided at the edges). Just thinking back makes me feel very much embarrased, but I have changed a lot, thanks to my GOD, who made me realise that I don't have to show flesh in order to feel worthy or beautiful.

  3. A couple of months after coming to church, I did the "closet cleaning". Getting rid of those certain outfits was so liberating. I had finally realized why I bought such clothes. Learning how to dress for me and not others was WONDERFUL!!


  4. Hey Mrs. Nanda
    There are so many girls out there that do exactly what you did before. They want to capture ALL the guys’ attention and so they decided to dress in a promiscuous way. I remember I would do the same. I wore the really tight jeans so I can show off my curves and those low cut t-shirts. Thanks to my God I have really changed. He’s opened my eyes to see that what I was doing wasn’t good. I know now that sexy isn’t what makes us beautiful.
    Thank you(:
    Alcy Gomez


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