When I was dating my husband I couldn’t wait to marry him.
I dreamt about how our life would be, but in those dreams I never even thought about disagreements or the times that we would say hurtful things to each other.
In the heat of an argument, words fly out like burning arrows aiming to damage and cause pain. During these moments the devil has a blast, for the person is not on guard and therefore senselessly blurts out all of the words that the devil suggests.
Afterwards you think to yourself: “Why did I say that? It wasn’t true! I was upset and I ended up saying such nonsense.”
Well, at that moment the devil enjoys himself and he plants the seed of sorrow in many hearts.
The word of God teaches us that we are one with our husbands; therefore, holding a grudge against them is like holding a grudge against ourselves!
It is so common for this to happen in a marriage because we have to deal with each other on a daily basis.
One day he gets home, you haven’t seen each other all day and you’re full of expectations but the first thing he does when he walks through the door is argue because you didn’t answer his call. That hurts your feeling a lot. You then try to talk but it seems to be worst. The more you try the more he ignores you.
Another day he’s rude to you in front of strangers, you feel humiliated.
Friends, if we start looking for more examples we’ll surely find loads but just remember that you also had your bad days in which you said and did things that you shouldn’t have.
Let’s not please the devil!
I’m not going to ask you to write you sorrows and grudges on a paper; instead, write them on the sand, for sooner than later they will disappear.
Dare- Task 25
“Today you will decide to forget any resentment you may have towards your husband. You know that holding a grudge or reliving memories of hurtful words or deeds will not do you- or your marriage- any good. This is a decision that you have to make.”