If you’ve experienced being accused of something you didn’t do, then you know how horrible it feels.
Many wives act this way with their own husbands either because they are very jealous or possessive.
This reminds me of my first boyfriend- he cheated on me. When I discovered his betrayal, I immediately ended our relationship but the scar he caused stayed with me.
That first disappointment in my love life made me extremely insecure but I was too young to recognize it. In fact, there were times where my lack of confidence was so severe that it became unhealthy.
All of my relationships after that were terrible…
I wanted to know everything about him, I would call him every night (at that time cell phones didn’t exist- can you imagine if they did?! Poor guy!), I would imply things to see if he would crack, if we walked down the street I would constantly glance at him to see if he was checking out other women, if he dared to look at one then it would be enough to cause an argument.
A friend once confided in me that she was so jealous and possessive of her husband that she got to the point of following him.
Although he had never betrayed her, she accused him constantly! She would even throw jealous fits on the street, at his work place and at home.
It got so bad that her once faithful husband began to purposely betray her. He thought: “Wait a minute- if I’m being accused of something I’ve never done, I might as well start doing it because I’ll get accused of it anyway.”
That’s right my friends, that whole business of smelling his shirt, trying to control him by constantly calling and wrongly accusing him can have catastrophic effects on your marriage. Actually, it accomplishes the exact opposite of what you desire.
Don’t allow past relationships to come back and haunt your future- don’t carry that baggage with you.
Trust is the foundation of a blessed marriage. Without it it’s really difficult to assure a lasting and stable marriage.
In my opinion, it’s very hard to find faithfulness nowadays. You can even find love but love alone is not enough to prevent someone from going astray.
You might ask: “Nanda, wait a minute, first you tell me that I shouldn’t worry or be jealous and possessive but then you say that it’s difficult to find faithfulness even if you love each other! I don’t understand at all!”
It’s a double edged sword my friends!
That’s why we will embark on an invisible task... a fight, a war!
Please pay close attention to the following.
Only a man that truly fears God is capable of being faithful.
He understands the danger of falling into temptation and therefore resists.
He knows that the Lord scrutinizes even his most intimate thoughts.
He hates sin but loves and fears God!
If your husband doesn’t possess this fear, then this will be your fight from now on:
Dare- Task #24
“You will incessantly make purposes before God in favor of your husband. You will invite him to the services at church- even if he always says no, don’t give up.
You will pray for him daily asking that God may free him from all temptation and the biggest task of all- no more accusations; unless you’re ready to throw in the towel and give up on your marriage because that’s exactly what your accusations will do, they will lead you to a dead end where the only other option you’ll find is called divorce…”
This spiritual battle will have the one objective of leading your husband to experience a true encounter with God; He’ll become a man fearful of the Lord.
If your husband already fears God, don’t think that you are exempt of this task.
Our prayers are of extreme importance. We can’t stop praying for our husbands ever! Because even though they may fear God, don’t forget that the devil is constantly presenting them with temptations- isn’t that what he does with us too?
It wasn’t by chance that the Lord Jesus took the time to teach us how to pray and He even included the part “lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil…”
Evidently, if your husband is a ladies’ man that blatantly betrays you, then you must decide whether or not you want to continue with the relationship.
Remember to be wise and to protect yourself; after all, contracting a sexually transmitted disease is one of the risks you don’t deserve to take.